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Wise Words About Kids

Here are some "Love and Logicisms" (Wise Words About Kids) from Jim Fay and Charles Fay of the Love and Logic Institute:

• Wise parents never try to convince kids that their decisions are fair.
• Chores are the basic building blocks of pride and feelings of being loved and needed by one's family.  Kids who have this at home don't need to find it in a cult or street gang.
• Do not pay your kids for completing their chores.
• Listening and using empathy is more important than "fixing" the problem.
• Never let a manipulating child see you sweat.
• When a child says, "I don't care if you do that," the wise parent enthusiastically responds, "Oh thank goodness.  That makes it a lot easier for both of us."
• Wise parents know that NOT getting one's way from time to time is actually good practice for life!  Children who are always protected from being upset become always-upset adults.

 

© Jim Fay, Cline/Fay Institute, 2207 Jackson Street, Golden, CO  80401.  Taken from:  Fay, Jim & Foster W. Cline, M.D.  The Pearls of Love and Logic for Parents and Teachers.  Golden, CO:  Love and Logic Press,  2000.